Post by cloudhorse on Oct 12, 2014 3:17:05 GMT
i've known him ten years , lived with him on and off, he's been in jail for abuse once and driving under the influence-DUI- ( alcohol) 3x but I took him back
i wonder if that's just the pattern or if influenced by my not having any family in this country other than my kids?
this time he was pretty normal for about 9 months then the ridgity - have to eat dinner at 5 - or when HE is hungry food better be ready when he walks in even though I get home 10-15 min before him from work and work another job in the evening or he gets mad
calls me stupid, insane, bitch, lazy
one night he got angry and we were arguing , as I turned away he pushed me I fell onto my front/ chest and broke two ribs
he came over when I was screaming in pain and put his hand over my mouth and nose and said shut up bitch there's no way I'm going back to jail
said I shoukd "have a taste of jail"
some days after this he would cry a bit say I had no idea how guilty he felt that it was an accident other times he said I provoked him by my voice, arguing, the way I had my arms crossed...
i tried to get him to move out of my apartment but every time I tried to talk quietly with him about how I was unhappy, thus wasn't working he said I was attacking him and either got drunk or angry
finally after two months barely sleeping( in separate rooms for months) lying either in fear or crying at night and his family wanting not
part of it I went to the police
they charged him with assault and arrested him
hes still in jail, has bail but unable to get anyone to be a surety
I've seen the victim safety officer set up a plan etc
so why do I still sometimes feel guilty that he's in jail.
hes had dozens of concussions in his youth in sports and I'm reading there's a connection between that and substance abuse, suicidality and assaultive behaviour
hes been pretty much impotent for years, only wanted oral and in last 6 months couldn't even get hard enough that I could do that, then he'd get angry, I " told you to use your hand" but there wasn't anything to hold onto!
land in the last four months I noticed the type of porn he was looking at if up late was getting to be younger girls, blindfolds, nasty stuff towards women, degrading
is there a connection?
i wonder if that's just the pattern or if influenced by my not having any family in this country other than my kids?
this time he was pretty normal for about 9 months then the ridgity - have to eat dinner at 5 - or when HE is hungry food better be ready when he walks in even though I get home 10-15 min before him from work and work another job in the evening or he gets mad
calls me stupid, insane, bitch, lazy
one night he got angry and we were arguing , as I turned away he pushed me I fell onto my front/ chest and broke two ribs
he came over when I was screaming in pain and put his hand over my mouth and nose and said shut up bitch there's no way I'm going back to jail
said I shoukd "have a taste of jail"
some days after this he would cry a bit say I had no idea how guilty he felt that it was an accident other times he said I provoked him by my voice, arguing, the way I had my arms crossed...
i tried to get him to move out of my apartment but every time I tried to talk quietly with him about how I was unhappy, thus wasn't working he said I was attacking him and either got drunk or angry
finally after two months barely sleeping( in separate rooms for months) lying either in fear or crying at night and his family wanting not
part of it I went to the police
they charged him with assault and arrested him
hes still in jail, has bail but unable to get anyone to be a surety
I've seen the victim safety officer set up a plan etc
so why do I still sometimes feel guilty that he's in jail.
hes had dozens of concussions in his youth in sports and I'm reading there's a connection between that and substance abuse, suicidality and assaultive behaviour
hes been pretty much impotent for years, only wanted oral and in last 6 months couldn't even get hard enough that I could do that, then he'd get angry, I " told you to use your hand" but there wasn't anything to hold onto!
land in the last four months I noticed the type of porn he was looking at if up late was getting to be younger girls, blindfolds, nasty stuff towards women, degrading
is there a connection?