Post by pumpkin7075 on Sept 29, 2014 15:23:59 GMT
My name is Rebecca and I have never done anything like this before so as you can tell not sure where to start. I guess at the beginning.....when my husband and I got married everything was great!!! When we first met we dated for 3 1/2 months I was going through a divorce, my husband we'll call K swept me off my feet. His wife had passed away 4 months earlier from cervical cancer, and yes I thought he was weird he was able to move on so quickly, I was very hesitant at first to get into a relationship with him. But he seemed so sweet and very genuine, after about 2 months he said he had fallen in love with me and couldn't live without me and all the other right things a woman who just got out of a crappy marriage wanted to hear. So my two sons and I moved in with him (and yes he won them over too). Everything seemed great, we coached baseball together (my sons teams), went fishing and camping and all the other family stuff. But after awhile I started to notice something, he always wanted me with him, he wanted me to call him every time I left the house to go to the store and when I left the store to come home, he didn't want me to work so I was a stay at home mom.
I would talk to my girlfriends from my past and he would get upset and when I would ask him what he was upset about he would tell me he wasn't upset at all and look at me like I was crazy. One day I stopped and took a look and realized that I had stopped talking to all my friends and even stopped hanging out with them. Because when I hung out with them he made me feel guilty that I wasn't spending time with him. Eventually it got to the point where the only friend I seemed to have was him, and all my time was spent with him. He wants to know what I am doing just about every second of everyday where I go, what I do, etc... But all the the while filling my head with declarations of love, buying me presents, and taking me places, and to add to taking me places the going places as a family stopped he wants only us two to go out together.
So after money being really tight I went and got a job, and once again I had to be on the phone with him till I got to work, he had to know at all times how long I was going to be at work, and I had to call him when I got off work. One day I decided to see what he would do if I didn't call him after I got off work and just show up at his job and surprise him, well the results of that was he was very angry! By this time I had a strong suspicion that he was cheating on me, so I started to question him, and all hell broke loose because you see it was not OK for me to question him about anything! He is angry all the time now, belittles me with sarcasm, makes my kids feel like they cant do anything right! He dose this thing where he says stuff under his breathe and when I ask him to repeat he says he didn't say anything and makes me feel like I am crazy! I will see something and when we talk about he will say stuff like "that is not how it happened or that's not what you saw", then will tell me what I saw. I've noticed weird things on my computer and after doing some online research I found out my computer has been connected to his so he can see all that I was doing. He will make comments about something I did during the day that I didn't tell him like he has cameras in the house watching my every move. I have had suspicion that there is something going on with him and my 17 year old son, not sure if its sex or smoking pot. Well when I started keeping and eye on them and questioning him the mind games got a lot worse.
He has gotten me to the point where I hate my married life, I cry all the time, and quite honestly I am afraid for my life. It honestly wouldn't surprise me at this point if he didn't try to off me. When we talk on our cell phones it sounds like there is more than us on the line (which I am not sure how that is), but I have recorded our phone calls and can hear him talking in a low voice to someone else. They have said many hurtful things, I am to the point that I hate talking on the phone to him! Ok so now is when you will wonder why am I still here, 1. I am going back to school for a medical degree so I have no money, 2. I am 12 hours from any family and he has them all convinced that he just about walks on water, 3. He is very good at hiding his tracks, most of the stuff I had has mysteriously been erased, 4. He has told his friends here some of our family problems and has made me out to be the crazy one and him the innocent victim, 5. He has many friends and family in the local law enforcement here that would believe him over me. So I feel like I have no where to turn and no one to turn too. Dose anyone know anyway I can catch him at doing this stuff so I have physical evidence? I live in North Carolina and down here southern boys watch out for southern boys even if its illegal! Please help me! If anyone in law enforcement reads this I could really use your advice not only for my sake but for my children s sake too!
I would talk to my girlfriends from my past and he would get upset and when I would ask him what he was upset about he would tell me he wasn't upset at all and look at me like I was crazy. One day I stopped and took a look and realized that I had stopped talking to all my friends and even stopped hanging out with them. Because when I hung out with them he made me feel guilty that I wasn't spending time with him. Eventually it got to the point where the only friend I seemed to have was him, and all my time was spent with him. He wants to know what I am doing just about every second of everyday where I go, what I do, etc... But all the the while filling my head with declarations of love, buying me presents, and taking me places, and to add to taking me places the going places as a family stopped he wants only us two to go out together.
So after money being really tight I went and got a job, and once again I had to be on the phone with him till I got to work, he had to know at all times how long I was going to be at work, and I had to call him when I got off work. One day I decided to see what he would do if I didn't call him after I got off work and just show up at his job and surprise him, well the results of that was he was very angry! By this time I had a strong suspicion that he was cheating on me, so I started to question him, and all hell broke loose because you see it was not OK for me to question him about anything! He is angry all the time now, belittles me with sarcasm, makes my kids feel like they cant do anything right! He dose this thing where he says stuff under his breathe and when I ask him to repeat he says he didn't say anything and makes me feel like I am crazy! I will see something and when we talk about he will say stuff like "that is not how it happened or that's not what you saw", then will tell me what I saw. I've noticed weird things on my computer and after doing some online research I found out my computer has been connected to his so he can see all that I was doing. He will make comments about something I did during the day that I didn't tell him like he has cameras in the house watching my every move. I have had suspicion that there is something going on with him and my 17 year old son, not sure if its sex or smoking pot. Well when I started keeping and eye on them and questioning him the mind games got a lot worse.
He has gotten me to the point where I hate my married life, I cry all the time, and quite honestly I am afraid for my life. It honestly wouldn't surprise me at this point if he didn't try to off me. When we talk on our cell phones it sounds like there is more than us on the line (which I am not sure how that is), but I have recorded our phone calls and can hear him talking in a low voice to someone else. They have said many hurtful things, I am to the point that I hate talking on the phone to him! Ok so now is when you will wonder why am I still here, 1. I am going back to school for a medical degree so I have no money, 2. I am 12 hours from any family and he has them all convinced that he just about walks on water, 3. He is very good at hiding his tracks, most of the stuff I had has mysteriously been erased, 4. He has told his friends here some of our family problems and has made me out to be the crazy one and him the innocent victim, 5. He has many friends and family in the local law enforcement here that would believe him over me. So I feel like I have no where to turn and no one to turn too. Dose anyone know anyway I can catch him at doing this stuff so I have physical evidence? I live in North Carolina and down here southern boys watch out for southern boys even if its illegal! Please help me! If anyone in law enforcement reads this I could really use your advice not only for my sake but for my children s sake too!
