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Post by Ava on Jan 9, 2021 18:22:34 GMT
I don't know if anyone is on here anymore, but for those who know my story, I can't believe I'm getting to say this. My ex is dead! I just found out about an hour and a half ago. My sister saw her obituary on Facebook. It didn't say how she died, but I really don't care right now. I don't even know what to do. I can't stop shaking. I'm just in shock. She was 28, I never expected this. My wife doesn't even know yet, she is out of town for the weekend and I left her a message but she hasn't called back. I'm not sure what to feel right now, but at least I can rest easy knowing my ex can't hurt anyone ever again. Also, I'm pregnant.  We decided to try after my 25th birthday. We had our first round of IUI in November and they said it would probably take a few months, but it took on the first try! And, baby is due in August, so I might have a birthday twin. I hope everyone is having a happy, healthy and safe 2021. Ava |
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Post by Ava on Jan 13, 2021 14:30:09 GMT
I found out it was a car wreck. Just her. She wrapped her car around a telephone pole. It still hasn't hit me quite yet. I keep having dreams about her. I was feeling guilty for feeling relieved about this. I'm not going to celebrate it, but just feeling relieved that this means she can't hurt anyone else. But then I remember all the things she did and put me through, and put the girl after me through, and I have no reason to think she'd have ever stopped. I feel for her family. She was estranged from them but I'm sure her parents are going through hell.
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Post by janine on Mar 22, 2021 12:49:02 GMT
Ava,
I am not here much anymore but stopped by and am glad I did. That is something very unexpected and I think you're dealing with it yet again in a very healthy way. As you mentioned you won't celebrate this of course, but it is also ok to be grateful this means no future victims will be harmed. I feel very similarly about my abusive ex (who is still alive). Be extra kind to yourself in the weeks to come. And if things bubble up it's always ok to go back to and double up on a few therapy sessions to work on whatever may come up if it does. xoxo
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Post by janine on Mar 22, 2021 12:50:11 GMT
And congratulations on your upcoming bundle of joy!!! That's such good news. You deserve all that is good, including a safe and happy home environment. Good things are coming your way.
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Post by karen on May 27, 2021 22:47:51 GMT
Hi Ava,
So very sorry to hear of her dying, but also I can relate to the feelings of relief that she will never hurt anyone again! THat had to be a shocker!
I am sure it shook you up a bit. It would definitely have made my mouth drop open and lots of feelings would have come up.
Congratulations on your bundle of joy!! That is so exciting for you and your wife! I am happy for you! You deserve all the goodness that is coming your way!
Hugs to you!
Karen
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We decided to try after my 25th birthday. We had our first round of IUI in November and they said it would probably take a few months, but it took on the first try! And, baby is due in August, so I might have a birthday twin. 
