Betrayed by all

Hi I have recently left a very coercive, and controlling abusive partner, the behavior was not noticeable by myself at first due to a very busy and pressured job, however his initial controlling and scary outbursts that turned into hours of psychological abuse, games and put downs sent me panicking but life appeared to be against me, a friend and my hairdresser whom I had confided in betrayed me and let him know I would be leaving, so of course then every movement is monitored, complete strangers target me as he has shown my photo around, his outbursts and vile disrespectful attitude has been noted in public places and neighbors.  Friends witnessed and noted he was becoming more aggressive so they pulled me out with my most precious belongings and some clothes, we had to do this whilst he was at work for fear of another outburst or stopping me again from leaving.  His games have included stealing or breaking things given to me by my family, he has also taken all personal contact details that were kept in my late fathers address book thus totally isolating me.

Throughout these last 2 weeks my friend whose sofa I am on has been very supportive and been witness to all phone calls - put phone even with police and victim support onto speaker phone, I had a call the weekend from a young female police officer on last week, it was awful very pushy and lacked experience we thought - victim support contacted me straight afterwards and I explained her attitude really upset me, this same officer visited me leading us still to believe she was from domestic violence but the whole hour she was hear made us think she had not had training and definitely did not understand or was aware of the tricks these characters use, today I have contacted the DV person at our council who has informed us she was not domestic violence but was first response, I feel so hurt and disgusted that one of English police forces can do this, apparently they see me as low risk, the DV officer at the council is still continuing to look for housing for me under an alias name - which does highlight the dangerous nature of this man, however, it is clear why women are getting killed and stuck in these most awful abusive relationships when the police fail you.

The man I was with was left a note with an engagement ring but he has not been telling people this he is saying I have been taken, he does not know where I am, could be dead or alive hmmmmm again doing what he does best putting an emotional act on and making me look like the bad one in the relationship - so many people have fallen for this side of him and believe me he has many sides.  He has advised in an email he will change the locks and has even told a witness that I cannot have my belongings as he needs them, I also with a witness present tried to access the property my key would not work in the lock, the female police officer who we thought was DV spoke with him and told her he had not changed the locks - she did not request evidence or take my key to try, I have paid for all in that house and family and in a will I was left furniture which he is not allowing me to have.  I have spent 3 days on the phone desperately trying to get support and even Women's Aid have failed by not responding, due to the lock down I cannot even get house clearance done, and yet the female police officer supposedly DV had also pushed me on the phone to sort this, again witness present, and all that keeps being thrown at me is go to a women's refuge - I may have a physical disability but I am much better off on a sofa with a friend that really does understand my anguish and pain, she has helped me gather evidence sneaking around whilst he was at work and we have clear evidence of all my personal and precious property from family and friends he has stolen - this hurts me to the core and I cannot get my head around how I am being treated, my friend is so very angry and we will begin complaints to the police and victim support for the way they have handled this - but no one and I mean none of them are appreciating what I have just come out of and the fear of him damaging any more precious memories of my family, and I am shocked at the Police - what hope does any abused woman have in this situation.

I am a prisoner at the moment as he cannot know where I am and I cannot be seen as he seems to be able to know everywhere I go, I feel helpless, lonely, lost and betrayed by those very services that have been set up to help people like me.