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Post by buddha123 on Apr 24, 2014 6:33:04 GMT
i m a girl.i took my neighbors laptop for downloading some movies. i opened his webcam and i saw two other boys on it. i was afraid and i closed his laptop fearing that someone is watching me from his laptop. i then cursed him a lot and said so many bad things to this guy the next day. but he again opened the laptop and showed me that it was only the pictures of his friends and not camera. i m feeling so guilty and embarrassed. i even said sorry to him but i m feeling so ashamed for saying so many bad things to him. i dont know know how to get over with this guilt.
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Post by steve on May 7, 2014 20:06:43 GMT
Hi, Buddha!
We all make mistakes sometimes. You did apologize, and it sounds like he was understanding. I guess my question would be: what is it about that situation that made you so fearful? Was there a time in the past that you really did have to worry about someone watching you or otherwise being creepy? Perhaps this triggered some experience from your past? Sometimes we react to the present because we're afraid that something that happened before is about to happen again. Often, we don't even know what it is we're afraid of, we just KNOW we have to defend ourselves. That's kinda what it sounds like to me. Does that ring any bells for you?
--- Steve
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Post by jeannie812 on May 11, 2014 4:27:39 GMT
Hi Buddha,
It means you have empathy for others when you feel bad for mistrusting another and to find out it was a mistake. Empathy is good, and feeling the shame of being wrong is good too. It means you have a good conscience. Yet, You are being too hard on yourself. Like Donald Trump said to Paula Dean ... You made a mistake, You apologized...now get back to work! I love his wording because it is so simple. And it applies to every day mistakes in life.
Forgive yourself and move on. Jeannie
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