Post by babychimes on Oct 2, 2014 20:42:35 GMT
I cannot believe that a trained counsellor, a professional like the one I paid for for a year has fallen for my ex who is what I can only describe as a sociapath. How can this woman be able to listen to other people like myself who has been through slapping, punching and threatening by this man and not realise that she is going through the same thing! My ex rang me last New Year's Eve telling me all what had happened to him... I knew exactly which scenario they were at including where his mum was at! He described a lot of our scenarios and even called her horrendous names, even her 7 year old daughter! Wow! She heard all this and he was put in his sons bedroom by his daughter to calm down as he has only just finished 2 year probation for assaulting us! Anyway we have finished even though he assures me that we need and are meant to be together therefore I need to sort it out! Obviously I haven't sorted it out his way .... I've broken free. It hurts of course as I loved him so dearly... But the way things went I knew I couldn't let my kids see anymore! Or his for that matter as they to this day will stick up for their dad... Wrong but right I know but I knew I couldn't go on much longer! It would end him killing me I'm sure!
What I cannot understand now is how a trained counsellor who is getting paid to listen to the likes of me telling them everything that I have gone/go through .... Then she goes home and goes through it herself. She won't change him. I thought I could change his bad behaviour and controlling behaviour as well as his violence but never could. It took him squaring up to my 11 year old daughter and him smacking our sons head on the door frame whilst shaking him violently telling me how he hates me and that this is all my fault (I'd been outside for 8 hours gathering the leaves from our acorn tree as I just knew he was about to start in the morning) to get me to call the police and get him out! That day will haunt me forever and I often relive this in my nightmares as it ends in a bad way in those dreadful dreams!
He is now very poor apparently but as he told me last christmas he will use his new girlfriend to do up his rented house he's now living in as she has money and is coming into money, but what I can't understand is why an earth is he being awkward now when I want to put the house that we both own that he hasn't paid for since December 2009 and has had £250k mortgage already from it, why he cannot let me put it up for sale and sell it as he has had his half already! It's that last bit of control he has over me as our son doesn't want to know him as he tells me all the things that I had put to the back of my mind! Things he remembers that at one I never thought he would! He doesn't want to know him as as far as he is concerned he hurt mummy badly and his sister! He now is nearly 7 and has hardly seen him since 2012 perhaps 3/4 times. He still owes him Christmas presents and birthday presents but hey he realises that that won't happen! He asks me why daddy used to hit me and why daddy used to be horrible to mummy... It breaks me as I really miss the good times. It's like what they say when he was good he was very very good but when he was bad he was awful, that was him! I miss him when it was good! The love I had for him was just so strong... Hence why I kept going back each time he had a pop at me. I used to think he would want to change and would but he would always say I have been really good this past year .... Bingo ... That in itself is wrong! But anyway nothing I can do about it! Nothing, he is trying to take off my children and I whilst owning 6 houses here in England and one in spain as well as our house. He put less than half in our house but realised that and got me to sign something legally in the solicitors when buying our house that will make it half and half, he even had great glee in telling me this! I feel sick knowing he didn't feel the same for me as I did him! He now is doing the same thing with this woman and this woman is letting this man tell her daughter who is 7, maybe 8 that he hates her! How awful.
I just dont don't understand how this woman can charge to listen to people like us and then go there at weekends as she lives in Ireland and comes weekends, how she can be with a man that most of her clients describe. Surely this isn't right!? How can she trust him, he's cheated on her already recently but I'm sure if he's been caught he will talk his way out of it. He always comes up smelling of roses even though he really isn't/shouldn't! I blame his parents as they apparently we frightening from day 1! Why does this happen?
What I cannot understand now is how a trained counsellor who is getting paid to listen to the likes of me telling them everything that I have gone/go through .... Then she goes home and goes through it herself. She won't change him. I thought I could change his bad behaviour and controlling behaviour as well as his violence but never could. It took him squaring up to my 11 year old daughter and him smacking our sons head on the door frame whilst shaking him violently telling me how he hates me and that this is all my fault (I'd been outside for 8 hours gathering the leaves from our acorn tree as I just knew he was about to start in the morning) to get me to call the police and get him out! That day will haunt me forever and I often relive this in my nightmares as it ends in a bad way in those dreadful dreams!
He is now very poor apparently but as he told me last christmas he will use his new girlfriend to do up his rented house he's now living in as she has money and is coming into money, but what I can't understand is why an earth is he being awkward now when I want to put the house that we both own that he hasn't paid for since December 2009 and has had £250k mortgage already from it, why he cannot let me put it up for sale and sell it as he has had his half already! It's that last bit of control he has over me as our son doesn't want to know him as he tells me all the things that I had put to the back of my mind! Things he remembers that at one I never thought he would! He doesn't want to know him as as far as he is concerned he hurt mummy badly and his sister! He now is nearly 7 and has hardly seen him since 2012 perhaps 3/4 times. He still owes him Christmas presents and birthday presents but hey he realises that that won't happen! He asks me why daddy used to hit me and why daddy used to be horrible to mummy... It breaks me as I really miss the good times. It's like what they say when he was good he was very very good but when he was bad he was awful, that was him! I miss him when it was good! The love I had for him was just so strong... Hence why I kept going back each time he had a pop at me. I used to think he would want to change and would but he would always say I have been really good this past year .... Bingo ... That in itself is wrong! But anyway nothing I can do about it! Nothing, he is trying to take off my children and I whilst owning 6 houses here in England and one in spain as well as our house. He put less than half in our house but realised that and got me to sign something legally in the solicitors when buying our house that will make it half and half, he even had great glee in telling me this! I feel sick knowing he didn't feel the same for me as I did him! He now is doing the same thing with this woman and this woman is letting this man tell her daughter who is 7, maybe 8 that he hates her! How awful.
I just dont don't understand how this woman can charge to listen to people like us and then go there at weekends as she lives in Ireland and comes weekends, how she can be with a man that most of her clients describe. Surely this isn't right!? How can she trust him, he's cheated on her already recently but I'm sure if he's been caught he will talk his way out of it. He always comes up smelling of roses even though he really isn't/shouldn't! I blame his parents as they apparently we frightening from day 1! Why does this happen?