Post by A on Sept 16, 2014 15:00:18 GMT
Something happened to me the other day in college and we was speaking about domestic abuse we had to watch a video, and as soon as the man put his hands on his girlfriend the noise automatically scared me and I had a panic attack in college. I didn't realise how much it was effecting me until then, and I've realised I needed to speak to my partner about it.
He said "the reason why I am I violent because you say things which piss me off" . I told him it's never been about that because I'm too scared to even have an argument with you over anything. I just know not to do it. I told him I need support with it because I can't cope and understand why it happened. He blames me for all of it and I'm starting to believe him. He said I'm not allowed to go to a cousillor, he found out I wanted to because he saw my phone history of me looking at councillor and I had no choice but to tell him. He wouldn't let it go until I had.
He said "I don't need help, and I don't need support because he'll support me" I refused and said you blame me for the abuse when it's never been about me it's about your own issues. And he just dismissed it.
I know he doesn't want me to go to a councillor because he doesn't want anyone to know or think bad of him. In my opinion.
I feel like it's my fault, I was 15 and didn't even understand what was haplening to me until I saw a poster about domestic abuse in my first year of college. I'm now on my third.
It's stressful and I feel to blame for everything.
He said "the reason why I am I violent because you say things which piss me off" . I told him it's never been about that because I'm too scared to even have an argument with you over anything. I just know not to do it. I told him I need support with it because I can't cope and understand why it happened. He blames me for all of it and I'm starting to believe him. He said I'm not allowed to go to a cousillor, he found out I wanted to because he saw my phone history of me looking at councillor and I had no choice but to tell him. He wouldn't let it go until I had.
He said "I don't need help, and I don't need support because he'll support me" I refused and said you blame me for the abuse when it's never been about me it's about your own issues. And he just dismissed it.
I know he doesn't want me to go to a councillor because he doesn't want anyone to know or think bad of him. In my opinion.
I feel like it's my fault, I was 15 and didn't even understand what was haplening to me until I saw a poster about domestic abuse in my first year of college. I'm now on my third.
It's stressful and I feel to blame for everything.
