janine
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Post by janine on Jun 23, 2017 12:18:48 GMT
Morning everyone! (or afternoon or evening, depending on where you live) Just popping in to say hello, and to share an observation. The news have been full of terror attacks lately, and at the same time I cannot help but see through the media circus and ask: Why aren't we reporting on an epidemic that is costing way more lives than terrorism? www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/23/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776.htmlSure, it's scary to think someone walks into your bus or bar with a machete or suicide vest, but that is a very unlikely way to go from this earth. What is way more like are car accidents and domestic violence, especially if you are a woman or have a daughter or female family member. But since "it's just " DV, the media won't get as many clicks. I also fear this won't change anytime soon, so all we can do is inform others, inform the ones we love, and do a tiny bit in our own short lives to maybe help just that one other person to be informed and safe.
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Post by steve on Jun 25, 2017 3:03:48 GMT
Agree 100%. Terrorism deaths are a tiny fraction of deaths due to DV or even due to ineffective medical care. In the US, they are less likely than drowning in your own bathtub. But it makes political hay to get everyone upset about an external danger so our real dangers at home can be overlooked.
I also read an article that talked about the very high correlation between mass killers and domestic abuse history. Much higher correlation than a Muslim upbringing!!!
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Post by janine on Jun 25, 2017 19:19:05 GMT
I couldn't agree more Steve. Well said!
Families are breeding grounds of terrorists/abusers. In certain societies the external regulations add to the trauma and likelihood of families following traumatizing and abusive paths. It's a sad cycle.
Today has been a big of a rough day as I found out through former mutual colleagues that my abusive ex is now dating a woman who has a young daughter, and his girlfriend is also pregnant from him. Two kids who will most likely grow up with abuse in some way, shape or form. The mother is a very vulnerable young woman who lost her own mom to cancer a few months ago, and who suffers from anxiety and low self-esteem. Textbook prey for him. I will of course follow the same approach I have had for almost 10 years - meaning NC and letting others (the coworkers we used to share) choose what they do, as I live on the other end of the planet anyways.
And so life goes on, abuse goes on, and at the same time healing and recovery goes on as well.
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