Yea, I think quite a few of us could tick that box, but then we would have to ask whether it was the previous forum or the one before that, which was linked to 3 sites at the time! So I guess the question for us 'oldies' is rather how did we RE-discover THIS forum, once the old one had disappeared?
I can't remember exactly how I found this website. My memory is kinda fuzzy. I think I was so confused and upset by absentee boyfriend X, who made sure I firmly committed to him. And, he would only come around enough to Hold me to my commitment. That I began to seek for answers elsewhere.
Yeah, that is abuse. Years of abuse is three-fold in therapy.
Last Edit: Mar 11, 2015 10:36:10 GMT by HH Lindsey
I knew something wasn't right with my then boyfriend...I Googled "abusive personality disorders"(I am a healthcare professional) and he fit 10/20 of those behaviors..this forum popped up as a link I believe and I clicked on it..thank God I did..it has been a life saver
Well I found the forum before this one by googling "domestic violence forum" but rediscovered this one on the hidden hurt site. So I'm not sure how to vote?? Lol
Yeah, when the old forum went down, we did not have a way of letting those who had come via Rhiannon3 know that there was a new forum, so had to basically hope that they would remember that the previous forum was shared with Hidden Hurt, and would find it that way.
So I guess from your perspective, the question is how did you REdiscover the forum? Did you google dv forums again, and come across the new one, or did you remember it had something to do with HH and go to HH and then find the forum from there? If the first, then your answer would have to be via a search engine. If the second, then it would be via Hidden Hurt.
I found the forum by talking to someone on a chat app on my phone. I told a guy i was staying single because of a previous abusive relationship and he told me about HH and the forum. Said "there are some wonderful people on here and to say hello to steve." Described him as empathetic and knowledgeable, one of the good guys.
I chose the found via a friend option but that doesn't really fit, he is a stranger. I don't know his name, only an online pseudonym "Gone" but I am really grateful for his understanding and support.
I found this website by typing "my husband hit me" into google and you were among the list of options, so I clicked on hidden hurt but it was your cycle of abuse page that came up and then I saw you had a message forum on the column on the left hand side of the page. After reading through some of the website I just felt I had to register.