Post by butterfly on Aug 26, 2014 22:34:05 GMT
In 2010 I realized that my now x husband was an abuser, it took me 18 years to wake up to the fact. He claimed I was mentally ill. I admitted myself into a mental health hospital. I was under observation for 5 days. I was given a diagnosis of no signs of mental health issues. I thought that was it, my fight was over. I stupidly took him back (you all know what a physiological abuser is like). In 2011 I finally ended the relationship with a lot of emotional support from my local womens aid organization. We have 2 daughters aged 16 and 8. After the separation and when everything had settled down we had agreed shared parenting. The girls stayed with me 4 nights and with him 3 nights per week as advised by the professionals as this is said to be the best for the girls emotionally. But as usual he wasn't happy and effected me financially to the point that I could no longer support the girls and pay the rent on my home. I moved out of my home to prevent the girls being uprooted yet again (he has caused this to happen 3 times before) and he moved in. I had to move 25 miles away due to the housing crisis in the UK. Due to finances I could only see the girls alternate weekends and during the school holidays. Last month I finally managed to secure a home very close to the girls and their schools. The eldest moved in with me I proposed to my x that the youngest stay with me 3 nights per week. 2 weeks later he stopped contact between me and the youngest and has now disappeared with her. I have spoken with the police and the local authorities childrens services. He has accused me of bullying my eldest to live me and that I will do the same to the youngest and will brain wash the youngest into not wanting to see him. He has told the police about 2010 when I went into hospital he says I was part of a cult and wanted to sacrifice the children. He is financially abusing me again now. I am going to see my solicitor tomorrow my solicitor is aware of my financial situation. I do believe that his true personality will come out because he continues to lie and I can prove that his allegations are false. All that being said.....where is my daughter and is she safe from his physiological abuse and am I doing all that I can for my little girl?