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Post by Fading on Aug 25, 2014 0:20:05 GMT
I don't know what to do with myself can not carry on like this anymore, I'm pregnant and feel so guilty for bringing a child into this horrible life I'm living. I have no friends, no family. Feel like there's no hope for me
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Post by janine on Aug 25, 2014 0:28:39 GMT
Hey Fading and welcome here,
What I am hearing is that you are experiencing right now a very difficult and isolated period of time. Being pregnant can be very scary, and it can be extremely anxiety provoking if you are in an unsafe and/or abusive environment.
Is your internet access safe? By that I mean that your partner or husband has no access to your search internet history.
Depending on which country you are currently living in, there are a TON of free resources out there you can use if you feel ready to reach out.
This link connects you with the national domestic violence hotline website of the USA- you can call them even if you do not reside in the USA currently. If you google search for "domestic violence hotline/ domestic violence shelter' for you specific country/county and or city, you will also find a ton of numbers and places to call or go to.
You do not have to live like this. There is help. You are not alone.
You matter and we care about you!!
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Post by Fading on Aug 25, 2014 23:03:30 GMT
Thanks for replying to me, I'm in the UK. Sometimes I feel like I'm ready to get out but once I start thinking about it I get scared and just put it to the back of my mind, like - there are people in worse situations just get on with it
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Post by janine on Aug 26, 2014 2:17:57 GMT
It is totally ok that you do not feel ready to leave him right now. Leaving is really a process, not one single event. Are there people in worse situations than you? Yes, I bet there are.
But then we could say that just because there are currently wars on our planet and people die from hunger and thirst- takes the right from US to question whether or not our personal situation is healthy and happy or not...that is my personal view at least. I too used to think my Ex was not so bad...after all "he never hit me".
Is that alone in itself not already sad? I used to think just because he did not YET hit me, I had no right to complain or question it. After all -- I thought-- all couples have issues...right? And not every day was bad, we had tons of fun too and there were good days.
The UK has a great DV support system too. Call the national DV hotline or a local shelter in your area. If anything you lost just a few minutes or less of your day - you will NOT be asked for your name or address. It is a safe way to talk for free to someone, who can answer your questions or just listen. The people on these hotlines are amazing and very kind and understanding.
We are here too of course and understand the thought of leaving alone is very scary.
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