Post by D azz on Feb 13, 2021 15:29:03 GMT
Hi folks, I've not been on here for a very long time.
I'm just looking for a bit of advice and couldn't work out where to ask for advice. I'm currently going through EMDR through NHS, so it has bought up tons of stuff I've buried.
I am no longer in an abusive relationship, I cut ties around 6 years ago. The problem I have is that they live around the corner from me. My life was threatened in the end which has left me quite broken, but am trying to heal as much as possible. I really want to move away and never see her ever again, I think this is the last chapter i need to complete, but am unsure if I need to do this or I can heal without needing to move. If i'm being radically honest I don't feel safe with her knowing where i am and the potential for her to have access to me. But with going through EMDR i'm concerned I'll go though it and it won't be as effective with me being in this situation. Moving isn't an easy thing as on benefits and my mental health isn't great. But if it needs to be done then I can probably find some help.
There should be question in there, apologies, I'm quite confused at the minute, and i'm still not really able to talk about this, but trying to be better at it.
I told my last therapist what had happened. I told her that my x tried to kill me. My therapist corrected me and said that she didn't but threatened to kill me. In my mind it was an attempt as I was told after being attacked at home that she was going to get a knife to kill me. I managed to get to a room and locked the door and fortunately she couldn't kick the door in. Was my therapist incorrect in saying this? I couldn't find my self trusting the therapist again because I felt like I'd been judged. but it's possible that i have a skewed version of what happened. I keep thinking that I should tell her so she doesn't do anything similar again to her clients. It hurt as i'd just been through the entire timeline of the abuse as it had led up to this.
Thank you
Dazz
I'm just looking for a bit of advice and couldn't work out where to ask for advice. I'm currently going through EMDR through NHS, so it has bought up tons of stuff I've buried.
I am no longer in an abusive relationship, I cut ties around 6 years ago. The problem I have is that they live around the corner from me. My life was threatened in the end which has left me quite broken, but am trying to heal as much as possible. I really want to move away and never see her ever again, I think this is the last chapter i need to complete, but am unsure if I need to do this or I can heal without needing to move. If i'm being radically honest I don't feel safe with her knowing where i am and the potential for her to have access to me. But with going through EMDR i'm concerned I'll go though it and it won't be as effective with me being in this situation. Moving isn't an easy thing as on benefits and my mental health isn't great. But if it needs to be done then I can probably find some help.
There should be question in there, apologies, I'm quite confused at the minute, and i'm still not really able to talk about this, but trying to be better at it.
I told my last therapist what had happened. I told her that my x tried to kill me. My therapist corrected me and said that she didn't but threatened to kill me. In my mind it was an attempt as I was told after being attacked at home that she was going to get a knife to kill me. I managed to get to a room and locked the door and fortunately she couldn't kick the door in. Was my therapist incorrect in saying this? I couldn't find my self trusting the therapist again because I felt like I'd been judged. but it's possible that i have a skewed version of what happened. I keep thinking that I should tell her so she doesn't do anything similar again to her clients. It hurt as i'd just been through the entire timeline of the abuse as it had led up to this.
Thank you
Dazz