Post by mum05 on Nov 9, 2017 21:53:19 GMT
Hi , I’m just looking for a bit of advice , and support . I used this forum a lot years ago , the people I spoke to gave me the courage I needed to end a 15 year mentally and verbally abusive relationship . It’s been 3 years since I ended it and it’s been very difficult . He is still a control freak , still abusive , but our youngest son is disabled so I’ve tried to remain amicable for his sake .
My daughter ( not his ) recently got married in Canada. The whole family were going . We were all sharing a apartment , including my ex as he was giving her away . I was fine with this . 3 months before we were due to fly he suddenly asked me to give it another go , I said no . He was intense and repetitive solidly for weeks , I felt physically and mentally drained . But I stuck to it , I feel nothing at all for him .
4 days before we were due to go he gave me a ultimati , we get back together or he will ruin the wedding / holiday .
I felt I had no choice , told him I didn’t want to , he knows I feel nothing . I felt I was in a no win situation.
He then decided he wanted sex , he knew I didn’t want to. He didn’t force himself on me . I agreed, though I was a unwilling partner . I literally bent over and let him do it , I cried the first time . He didn’t care . We are now in Canada , separate rooms , but he texts me every other night to go to his room when everyone else is asleep . I hate this , I hate how I was strong for so long , and now I’ve been reduced to this . I feel like I’m trapped more than I was when I was in a proper relationship with him . The wedding is in 2 days and I can’t do anything until that is over , I know he will ruin it if I refuse .
I never imagined I would find myself in this
situation. I know I have brought this situation on myself and there are people on here in seriously abusive situations .
Thank you for reading
My daughter ( not his ) recently got married in Canada. The whole family were going . We were all sharing a apartment , including my ex as he was giving her away . I was fine with this . 3 months before we were due to fly he suddenly asked me to give it another go , I said no . He was intense and repetitive solidly for weeks , I felt physically and mentally drained . But I stuck to it , I feel nothing at all for him .
4 days before we were due to go he gave me a ultimati , we get back together or he will ruin the wedding / holiday .
I felt I had no choice , told him I didn’t want to , he knows I feel nothing . I felt I was in a no win situation.
He then decided he wanted sex , he knew I didn’t want to. He didn’t force himself on me . I agreed, though I was a unwilling partner . I literally bent over and let him do it , I cried the first time . He didn’t care . We are now in Canada , separate rooms , but he texts me every other night to go to his room when everyone else is asleep . I hate this , I hate how I was strong for so long , and now I’ve been reduced to this . I feel like I’m trapped more than I was when I was in a proper relationship with him . The wedding is in 2 days and I can’t do anything until that is over , I know he will ruin it if I refuse .
I never imagined I would find myself in this
situation. I know I have brought this situation on myself and there are people on here in seriously abusive situations .
Thank you for reading