|
|
Post by desormes on Dec 28, 2016 16:55:45 GMT
My son and his sister live with their mum who has re-married.
Unfortunately her relationship is a a stormy violent relationship with her husband.
Both myself and my son's sister's father are really concerned and afraid that the children, ok know the children are witnessing violent abuse towards their mother.
Can we obtain an occupancy injunction against this abuser?
We have both removed the children from the family home and are staying with us until we can get correct advise, despite threats coming from the family home.
The children understand why they are staying with us.
|
|
|
|
Post by been there on Dec 28, 2016 23:33:32 GMT
in my experience you will be punished for this
get a very good lawyer quickly and act immediately, today
abusers, by their very nature will not play fair, be prepared for anything and everything thrown at you with the intent on destroying you in every way
i wish you the very best of luck, its a hard path to tread
|
|
janine
Member
Admin
Posts: 1,185 
|
Post by janine on Dec 29, 2016 0:35:08 GMT
I second that - get legal advice from a local lawyer or victims advocate group immediately.
You can call a DV hotline as well and explain that you need urgent legal advice. It might even help to call the police and file an official report- but again I would consult an emergency lawyer asap.
I am sorry this is happening. You are tying to protect the kids. They deserve that.
I wonder if you could even call child protective services right now and file a report mentioning you were concerned that they had been in immediate danger today.
I hope everything turns out ok! They should not be living in an abusive home.
The abuser - their mother's new husband -needs to be removed from their life immediately.
|
|
|
|
Post by desormes on Dec 29, 2016 11:30:28 GMT
Both Dads have contacted Social Services to get the case recorded, but only emergency social worker in due to time of year. Will contact the team again today. Been advised to keep the children away from the family home until further notice.
|
|
janine
Member
Admin
Posts: 1,185
|
Post by janine on Dec 29, 2016 13:21:08 GMT
It sounds like you are on top of things.
It is one thing to be the victim of abuse as an adult, it is another ball game when children are involved because they hear and feel and see the abuse in their house.
Even when many parents think children are too young or that abuse can be hidden from them. It can't.
I hope you get the answers and support you need and deserve from social services.
|
|
|
|
Post by been there on Dec 30, 2016 1:46:37 GMT
get that advice in writing
it could end up saving the whole thing when the abuser starts the war against you
|
|
|
|
Post by desormes on Dec 30, 2016 12:09:08 GMT
Thanks all.
The update is Social Services will not get involved as the children are safe at present?
Have to get legal advice now and end up in court again as the mother is denying anything is wrong and the husband is back at the home and she is not willing to budge on anything.
She actually says the children are lying. A typical trait of a receiver of abuse.
The children are telling the same stories, even though they are not together at present as they are with their separate Dads and not in touch with one another.
I am surprised I have not received a visit from the police as has happened over minor issues previously, but I think she really knows that she and her husband are in the wrong and we are only looking after the interest of the children.
Supposedly, the police have attended the family home as a result of a domestic issue according to my son, which he says was the most frightening time at home.
I am breaking my heart along with other members of my family, but I am determined to keep my son safe.
I do not want or wish to keep him from his mum, but she really has to make a decision where her priorities lie. Her children or her husband. I am not prepared to take the risk.
|
|
misterm
Member
https://b2aware.wordpress.com/
Posts: 65 
|
Post by misterm on Dec 30, 2016 12:47:29 GMT
same happened to me, social services refused to get involved because the kids were safe with me.
the abuser denied everything and said the children were lying.
it went to court, the abuser got the kids and claimed to be the victim
now i am facing jail for making the whole thing up!
sorry i cant advise you what to do as every effort i made, all the advice i got, all the actions i took went as wrong as it is possible to go
just know you are facing a long and hard battle, quite the opposite of what it should be
i wish you all the luck in the world, you will need it
|
|
|
|
Post by stephaniekeesee on Aug 31, 2017 9:38:46 GMT
Your story is somewhat similar to my sister's story. My sister was not happy with her husband. She wanted to get out of the marriage. The lawyer Bechara Tarabay helped her in the best way. She lives in Paris and she hired the lawyer after checking the useful source from LinkedIn. Tolerating such a worst situation is never accepted. |
|
