Brad
Member
Posts: 2 
|
Post by Brad on Feb 7, 2014 16:01:37 GMT
Hi everyone
I am a final year photography student currently researching gay domestic abuse/violence. I myself was a victim of domestic abuse. My previous intensive relationship left me hospitalised and struggling with a drug addiction. After intensive trauma counselling and a lot of time and support from various charities i successfully changed my life and am now finishing my University degree.
For my final project i am focusing on awareness of gay domestic violence, initially i started my project looking at my own memories, my experiences and feelings. In turn i created a series of images that reflected some of the feelings i had during my relationship (you’re more than welcome to see them if you want, i didn't want to upload anything straight away incase it upset anyone)
I am interested in meeting other gay survivors of domestic violence, listening to their stories, conversing with them and developing more research so that i can create a more poignant, informative and meaningful project.
I was wondering if there is any way i can work with you? Meeting other survivors? Are there groups that you know of that run where i can meet people? Chatting with you on here would be great as well.
Thanks!
Brad
|
|
|
|
Post by Janine 1984 on Feb 7, 2014 17:53:55 GMT
Hey Brad and welcome here.
I am not sure if we have anyone right now on here who has survived or is in an abusive homosexual relationship but we did in the past. Maybe someone feels inspired to share when they read your post though. It is a very important topic and an area of domestic violence that is often not considered by the public. Homosexual couples can experience DV just as much as any couple. You can call your local DV shelter or the national DV hotline of your country/state and see if they can connect you with groups or counselors specialized on abuse in same sex relationships. They would know who is an expert and could help you find the information you are looking for.
Again, welcome here and stay strong- surviving something like this takes courage and you have clearly turned your life around to live a better and saver and happier life. That must have been difficult at times and I am very happy to hear you are finishing college off soon. Way to go!!!
|
|
w
Member
Posts: 22 
|
Post by w on Feb 9, 2014 0:17:52 GMT
Hi Brad,
I am bi and have been stalked and abused by a former female partner. Although it wasn't DV, so I don't know if I'm really the kind of person you are looking for, but I would also really like some kind of LGBT community for survivors of abuse. Its just really nice to hear how well you are doing! Good luck!
|
|
steve
Member
Admin
Posts: 266
|
Post by steve on Feb 9, 2014 17:58:32 GMT
Hey, W!
It sure sounds like DV to me! Being stalked and abused by a former partner is classic DV. Nobody has to hit you. You are a survivor. I am sure you'll be a very good source for Brad. Sorry that crap happened to you!
And same for you, Brad. I'm glad you're doing this research - it is an area that does not get talked about nearly enough. And there are much fewer resources for male survivors and gay survivors than there are for heterosexual female survivors. Again, I'm sorry you had to go through that, but well done for turning your energy toward making the world a better place!
---- Steve
|
|
|
|
Post by Eastone on Feb 14, 2014 14:17:50 GMT
Hi Brad I am a gay woman and a survivor of domestic abuse from my ex female partner. I was able to get out of that relationship mainly thanks to the help and advice I received from the people on this forum including Steve. I would be happy to help in any way I can.
|
|
Brad
Member
Posts: 2
|
Post by Brad on Apr 17, 2014 10:59:10 GMT
Hi Thanks for replying! This is a topic that isn't covered enough and has always been stereotyped as a one gender sided situation. The Guardian wrote in 2013 that in reality in the LGBT community it is a "silent epidemic' whereby in a study conducted by The New Hampshire identified 40% of people in the LGBT community where in an abusive relationship. Interestingly gay and b-sexual men are twice as likely to be in an abusive relationship than heterosexual men. Between 2008/09 the figures showed that double the amount of gay/bi men filled the male abuse statistics than that of heterosexual. Since posting in this forum this project has taken off and i will be appearing on the BBC Breakfast sofa next week to discuss the campaign i have created and the limited resources for gay men. I know that there is a case for lesbian women too however there are already a lot of other charities for women out there, men are looked in entirely different way. If you're interested and want to know more please visit www.invisiblecampaign.com or you can visit the Facebook page (search for Invisible Campaign) or Twitter at @invisible_DV Looking forward to hearing from anyone else on here  - Brad |
|
|
|
Post by Janine 1984 on Apr 17, 2014 16:25:57 GMT
Amazing and such important work! Thanks for doing that!!! Ill check it out. |
|
steve
Member
Admin
Posts: 266
|
Post by steve on Apr 17, 2014 20:34:54 GMT
Hey, Eastone! I had not noticed your post before - great to hear from you! I hope things are continuing to go well for you. I'm always interested to hear about "life after abuse," so feel free to post an update. Would love to chat!
---- Steve
|
|
w
Member
Posts: 22
|
Post by w on Apr 17, 2014 21:41:19 GMT
This looks so interesting!! I definitely agree that female/female and male/male abuse cases are completely different from each other. I have to say though, even within the LGBT community trans people are continuously overlooked and are one of the most at risk groups for DV and abuse. I'm looking at a report by a Scottish organisation that says 50-80% of trans people have experienced abuse at the hands of partners. *Throws in my two cents*
|
|
|
|
Post by Rebecca on Aug 22, 2017 8:36:47 GMT
Hi all,
Wow what an incredible forum. Not to sound insensitive but I'm writing a story on Gay Domestic Violence or Abuse within relationships or friendships and how this issue is not discussed or helped enough. I believe this issue is not discussed enough by the media or in society. The focus today is on reducing violence against women by men and so no light is shed on the importance of gay domestic abuse.
If anyone is a survivor or struggling to cope with an abusive partner I would love to hear your opinion on the matter and find out why you think there aren't as many campaigns to stop gay domestic abuse.
You have every right to remain anonymous and refuse publication if need be.
Thank you so much for your time and consideration, please respond on this forum and I'll leave my contact details.
Thanks,
Rebecca
|
|
karen
Member
"Trust Your Journey"
Posts: 1,518
|
Post by karen on Aug 23, 2017 2:35:00 GMT
Hi Rebecca, your paper sounds really interesting! And sadly you are right, there isn't much light shed on the abuse that happens in gay relationships and it does happen. I personally know if a relationship where it is happening.
I hope some respond to you. I am not gay so I don't have any knowledge. I know there are several here who have been in gay relationships where abuse is occurring.
Again, thank you for this paper you are writing. It needs attention, I hope some will reach out to you. It may take time. Sometimes responses here are slow, sometimes not! LOL
Karen
|
|
|
|
Post by Rebecca on Aug 23, 2017 23:59:48 GMT
Hi Eastone, I would love to get in contact with you and talk about your experiences. Thanks, Rebecca Hi Brad I am a gay woman and a survivor of domestic abuse from my ex female partner. I was able to get out of that relationship mainly thanks to the help and advice I received from the people on this forum including Steve. I would be happy to help in any way I can. |
|
|
|
Post by polarone on Sept 25, 2017 10:46:37 GMT
Hi. I've recently got out of a violent lesbian relationship and would be happy to share and meet others who have gone through similar.
|
|
