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Post by HH Lindsey on May 22, 2015 11:26:13 GMT
Shame, and the negative Illusion of the Self "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti This may come as a surprise to many, but it seems we are all born into a world, a civilization, a culture whose main tool of socialization, is the abusive concept of Coercion and Control. We have come to recognise and name this 'Shame', which may have had its uses in the past, but is now understood to have far reaching negative consequences. Though traditionally considered an emotion, shame may also variously be considered an affect, cognition, state, or condition. The 'Shame' of this article is one recognised as a 'state of being' that stems from comparison of the individual self with the ideal social standard, that is determined firstly by external and later internal comparison. Thus, shame may stem from volitional action or simply self-regard; no action by the shamed person is required: simply existing, it seems, is enough. s To read A LOT more: www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Shame.html by John Stibbs (author of Emotional Boundaries in relationships, also on Hidden Hurt). Takes a lot of reading and then thinking about and then re-reading, but for anyone brought up within a dysfunctional family,it makes sense out of chaos and offers hope for healing and much more.
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