Post by xmas13 on Apr 10, 2015 18:11:49 GMT
He has agreed to see or start an abuser programme, as long as he can speak to my therapist to find out what we have been discussing. He has agreed to put both names on the house to give my son and me security. He has also agreed to tell his daughters the truth although he doesn't think this is the right thing to do. What he is asked of me is : I don't move my business premises, I don't drink anything other than ballies when I am not with him, I don't go out to the city at night, I have to be honest with him and tell him everything that is going on, in my own life and my business as both would have an impact on the relationship. I have consulted my accountant and a further source whom both agree that I should remain business wise where I am and put extra effort into my website and advertising, which is fine but why am I question my abuser on this why do I feel so angry towards him ? He says his input is genuinely down to the fact that I would be stressed out more, no time for my son or our relationship ! Again I am 50 years old, having just had a really bad illness, I am shattered and my memory has progressively been getting worse of which he comments on all the time, sad to say I agree, so in some ways giving in and staying with him maybe not so bad. He can offer security re house he has asked my son and I to go to Florida in July for two weeks he will pay for everything if I pay for our flights, for me and my son. This would be once in a lifetime holiday for my son and I and hard to not agree.
The true thing is I am so so down, very weepy and not excited about the future not even excited about Florida, if it actually ever happens.
My daughter is blaming him for the urine kidney infection due to everytime we split and get back I get an infection, I don't get any infections when we are going steady, which does hang heavy on my heart as I don't know if I believe that over the 2 month period he never slept with anyone else !!!!
He is now in Portugal on a golf trip, he left yesterday. Silly situation but my washing machine broke down so last minute I asked him to leave his key to allow me to use his until I got mine fixed. He agreed then left without leaving the key, I had only asked him 10 min before !! I think the truth is he didn't want me in the house without him being there, thus having something to hide !!!! we lived together for 2 years, we live in that house from time to time so what is he playing at
Sorry if this post has went on and on just feeling so low and don't know which way to turn ?
love and hugs to you all xxx