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Post by unknown31 on Aug 9, 2014 0:16:51 GMT
I was slapped by my husband in the morning.He broke my lips aand there was blood all over.I am currently pregnant and been constantly abused emotionally and physically.I am not suppose to keep any friends and my family is very far.I have not contacted the police over this matter as I dont want anything to happen to him.I feel humiliated as he constantly put me down and namecalling.I lost interest in everything,i can hardly enjoy a meal,or go out or dress up.
He wants things to be done in the house as per his wish.
When i raise any issue with him,he start yelling and tell me i am stupid and whatever I say does not make any sense.
He is on drugs everyday after work.
I feel i will get depression if i dont seek help.
please advise
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Post by janine on Aug 11, 2014 20:24:25 GMT
Hey unknown 31 and welcome here,
I moved your post from the more 'hidden' police officer request to our main board. That way you will receive the attention you deserve and have more eyes read over it.
Let me start by saying it sounds like your husband is very abusive. I am concerned not only about your own safety, but also that of your unborn child.
Abusers abuse VERY often their own children just as much as they abuse their wife. Just because he/she is an unborn baby, does not guarantee he will not harm him/her. Even unborn, many abusers cannot stand the pressure of becoming a father and taking responsibility- and there sadly many stories of women who were punched and kicked into their pregnant bellies or even pushed down stairs. The intention is not only to abuse you and break you, it might also be to harm and/or kill the child at one point.
Even if he would not harm the child directly, imagine how the baby would feel about his/her own safety once born.
The one problem you mentioned- that you do not want to involve the police because you 'dont want anything happen to him" is very understandable.
You are not only traumatized by abuse, he is also your husband and the father of your child. He most likely also threatened you what he would do to you, if you talk about his abuse.
The only advise I can give you right now, if you are not yet ready to reach out to help in your immediate environment is to stay safe, listen to your gut, delete your browser history in case he stalks your computer and ...well you know him best. Let your gut and intuition guide you through this.
It sounds like only three days ago when you first posted here he had slapped you so hard that your lips were bleeding.
If you do not want to contact the police yet, google some local women's shelters or DV (Domestic Violence) shelters. They have free counseling regarding your depression- you do not have to tell them your name or where you live. You can simply call them or the national DV hotline and ask what support is out there for you.
The sad news is also men like this never ever change. By staying you choose a dangerous life for you and your baby.
This means that getting away and going no contact is often the only way to escape the abuse. The shelter or hotlines can also help you with this.
If all of this seems like too much right now, read in our forum and other articles online about abuse, cycle of violence, post traumatic stress etc.
There is help when you are ready to leave in a safe way.
You do not have to live like this.
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