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Jun 13, 2014 21:59:13 GMT
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Post by Jane on Jun 13, 2014 21:59:13 GMT
Need advice I'm upstairs hiding from my husband I want to go but my kids are asleep in their beds so can't leave them! He's pushed me over and is drunk I'm hoping he falls asleep downstairs and doesn't come back up. I want it to be day time because it feels like a long time to wait till I can get the kids and get out of the house. I don't know what to do I feel I'm being over the top, I just don't know I'm scared!
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Post by janine on Jun 13, 2014 23:23:28 GMT
Hey Jane and welcome here,
The one thing you can do is call the police, quietly, but only if you are 100% sure he does not hear you use the phone. I would also wait until he snores/is definitely deep asleep. You can be picked up and they WILL assure you can leave with the kids and help you get to a shelter to be safe, regroup and get support for ALL worries or concerns you have about leaving.
You are not alone and it is OK to involve help right now.
When I left my abusive Ex I too waited until he passed out drunk the night I ran away.
Trust your instincts, they guide you and your children to safety!!!
Let us know how the evening/night went.
Deep breaths!!!!
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Worried!
Jun 14, 2014 6:57:33 GMT
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Post by Jane on Jun 14, 2014 6:57:33 GMT
I'm ok thanks for reply, he fell asleep downstairs, he's got up and gone now so I'm ok but not sure what to do next? Think he's gone to his mums prob won't hear from him for a couple of days.
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Post by janine on Jun 14, 2014 15:27:59 GMT
Listen to your gut. The shelter and police are there to help you and your children to be safe. When you are ready to reach out, you will know and feel it.
You can simply google on your computer (But please delete your browser history in case he controls what websites you are looking at!) DV shelter and your town or state. Put the number in a safe place or save it under some harmless name in your phone he will not be suspicious of.
The abuse never ends. It only gets worse.
Leaving is so scary but at least leaves the option of a better life.
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Post by jeannie812 on Jul 26, 2014 3:40:05 GMT
Dear Jane, the night my husband came home drunk (again) and I was sleeping upstairs with my kids, (just like you) it was my break to get away from that guy. I filed a restraining order the next day. There is more to the story. He attempted to walk up the stairs and fell and hit his head. He found out later that he had a concussion. Then all was quiet until he came to. Then he came up and said he would rape me and he tried to rape me. But, I fought him off. He was actually smiling happily in my face really happy as he was trying to rape me and as I fought him off he looked like he thought it was a game of rough sex. He is NUTS!! He really thinks women want to be raped by him.
But, Jane, don't miss your chance to get a no-contact order on that guy. Would you rather be from a broken home or live in one? If you have kids would they rather be from a broken home or live in one? It is the hardest thing to leave abuse because it is so intoxicating. Leaving it is like trying to give up drugs. And isn't the thought of drugs so distasteful? I think it makes it a little easier if we look at abuse this way, cause isn't it like a bad drug habit?
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Post by Finally free on Jul 29, 2014 16:25:48 GMT
Hi Jane, I dont know if you are feeling ready to leave but trust me this will only get worse each time, keep safe x
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