Post by janine on Jan 12, 2019 4:46:39 GMT
Well....it has been a while...both me replying to others here...and me posting....
But tonight I might need a wee bit of support. Nothing dramatic...but I just found out my abusive ex, from whom I ran away in my underwear, barefoot....police called and all...restraining order....a complete sociopath of an abuser-man....has gotten his latest girlfriend pregnant and he will be a father in June.
She is from what I could tell a vulnerable target for him. (a friend of mine told me they had announced the pregnancy on Instagram, and I was somehow in a trance and checked without asking myself first whether or not it is healthy to look him up....Hint: It is not....) And she already has a child from another man, and is rather open on social media about the father of that child having gone to jail, and both my ex and her post a ton about being drunk and smoking cigs etc.
They also don't have careers, either of them. And both were recently forced to move back in with her father.
I don't even know why I am upset right now...but I feel upset. For one, I wish I wouldn't even think of it....and for the most part I don't...But I think part of it is that I don't have children yet myself...and here is my abusive low-life ex...becoming a father.
And I have compassion for that poor child being born into this mess. May the baby and the other child from another father, and of course his pregnant girlfriend be safe. The thought of my abusive and unstable ex dealing with a newborn and all that stress that comes with it...makes me physically sick...Plus back then he tried to get me pregnant on purpose, and we had an 'accident' and I had a pregnancy scare....so I know he might have thought getting her pregnant will ensure she won't leave him...as abusers tend to think.
Well...I better take a shower...accept where I am at in life...children or not....at least I live abuse-free...and do the best I can with what I got to be a decent-enough human being.
For anyone out there in similar situations, as in abusive ex getting a new partner pregnant...any advice on how you worked through that would be greatly appreciated....
For some reason all I know about DV is suddenly gone...Like I KNOW abusers abuse the next partner as well..but my mind is telling me now these old lies of "Maybe it was my fault he was abusive and he only needed to find the right loving girl"....When in reality, I KNOW he is a horrible manipulative and dangerous sociopath...and two of his other ex girlfriends back then talked to me about how he abused them, too....so I have proof...yet it still is.....ugh....just weird....just so weird and hard....
Onward...right....onward.
oxoxxoxo
But tonight I might need a wee bit of support. Nothing dramatic...but I just found out my abusive ex, from whom I ran away in my underwear, barefoot....police called and all...restraining order....a complete sociopath of an abuser-man....has gotten his latest girlfriend pregnant and he will be a father in June.
She is from what I could tell a vulnerable target for him. (a friend of mine told me they had announced the pregnancy on Instagram, and I was somehow in a trance and checked without asking myself first whether or not it is healthy to look him up....Hint: It is not....) And she already has a child from another man, and is rather open on social media about the father of that child having gone to jail, and both my ex and her post a ton about being drunk and smoking cigs etc.
They also don't have careers, either of them. And both were recently forced to move back in with her father.
I don't even know why I am upset right now...but I feel upset. For one, I wish I wouldn't even think of it....and for the most part I don't...But I think part of it is that I don't have children yet myself...and here is my abusive low-life ex...becoming a father.
And I have compassion for that poor child being born into this mess. May the baby and the other child from another father, and of course his pregnant girlfriend be safe. The thought of my abusive and unstable ex dealing with a newborn and all that stress that comes with it...makes me physically sick...Plus back then he tried to get me pregnant on purpose, and we had an 'accident' and I had a pregnancy scare....so I know he might have thought getting her pregnant will ensure she won't leave him...as abusers tend to think.
Well...I better take a shower...accept where I am at in life...children or not....at least I live abuse-free...and do the best I can with what I got to be a decent-enough human being.
For anyone out there in similar situations, as in abusive ex getting a new partner pregnant...any advice on how you worked through that would be greatly appreciated....
For some reason all I know about DV is suddenly gone...Like I KNOW abusers abuse the next partner as well..but my mind is telling me now these old lies of "Maybe it was my fault he was abusive and he only needed to find the right loving girl"....When in reality, I KNOW he is a horrible manipulative and dangerous sociopath...and two of his other ex girlfriends back then talked to me about how he abused them, too....so I have proof...yet it still is.....ugh....just weird....just so weird and hard....
Onward...right....onward.
oxoxxoxo