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Post by melonpower on Jul 10, 2017 16:43:29 GMT
I have ended up as bad as my abuser i left friday after he attackedme with a table leg and threw me under the shower in the bath to wash the blood off he taunted me n laughed at me n i lost it n assaulted him the same way we both got terrible injuries and i feel so low in myself that I did it bk to him. I rang the police as i couldnt retrieve my belongings and was in the street with nothing crying hes since decided that i attacked him first(total rubbish) sending txts he shouldnt to me as hes out on police bail n not to contact me was one of the conditions. Im going to report this when i see an officer tomorrow to get my stuff from his flat im dreading the lot of it why didnt i just run out when he finished hitting me why did i have to become as bad as him? the police are waiting on cps decision to charge n go court im in a state. I never wanna go back to him but i feel like dropping the charges because i was truly as violent as him before i left and thinking how utterly embarassing it will be for me to go ahead... never mind his sudden revelation that he was assaulted by me first who will the courts believe if its my word against his???
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Post by melonpower on Jul 11, 2017 13:47:33 GMT
can anyone here relate or support me please
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karen
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Post by karen on Jul 11, 2017 22:35:44 GMT
Hey Melonpower...I have not been in your situation, but I can tell you you are not like him, you are not as bad as him. Self-defense is not a crime. You have the right to fight back and defend yourself. Big difference in what you did and what he did. Calling the police and sharing your version of what happened is probably a good thing to go on record.
Keep every contact he makes to use and take it to the police as evidence. If he does contact you he is breaking a protective order and can be arrested again. Dropping the charges is your choice and a tough one to make. BUT..he assaulted you and that is a crime. He needs to be held accountable for that.
Keep all your texts, e-mails, and take pictures of the injuries. Gather evidence Also, if you have a local Domestic Violence Center you can call or go to..perhaps seek them out for legal advice? You can call a national hotline for the same reason. You need support and information, so please reach out to the DV center. They know what is legal in your town.
If this happens again,.I hope it doesn't, but go to the hospital and get it documented what he did. That is your proof and the reason the court will believe you. You have to gather proof..record him if he speaks to you, your cell phone may be able to do this.
What he did is horrible and wrong. Please stay away from him and be safe!
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