how do you just leave

Hi Mary,

It sounds like your greatest obstacle comes in the form of financial freedom right now, and you do not want to leave him right now because it would put you in a difficult
financial situation.

This is the perfect time to call a DV hotline and/or shelter. There are many financial assistance programs out there, because one of the main tactics abusers use is to financially abuse their victims, so that they depend on them 100%. If I think I cannot survive without my abuser, and I need his money, I stay.
But that is a false belief, because there is always a way out, even if it does not feel like it.

Yes, it may be difficult to have less money short-term, and that is not an easy decision to make.
But at the end of the day money comes and goes, and there are ways to get the financial support from other resources.

You got this. Reach out, inform yourself what kind of resources are available, and you will slowly but surely see that there is a way out.